Why do people get married

If you are honestly searching for an answer to the question of why get married then you already know that there is no good, rational reason to do it. Of course for a religious person the answer is obvious and it has something to do with the formal interpretation of certain paragraphs in the holly books of most religions although most of the times those paragraphs could be given a different interpretation. And the other major target group that doesn’t really have a good argument but somehow knows that marriage is desirable are the young women who have played the game of marriage so many times as they were growing up that now are hopelessly entangled in to their own fantasies and no longer need to ask themselves why get married.

But not having a good answer to the question of why get married isn’t in itself a good enough reason not to get married. As absurd as that may sound you need to realize that we are all influenced by unconscious triggers that only wear the mask of rationality so that we can “save face” in our own eyes. For the others, however, those around us many of our own desires seem to be just as absurd and irrational. For example one of the most common desires that rarely have a good rational answer is the obsession most men have about cars. It might not be as severe for some as it is for others but most guys who own a car will feel the urge to somehow beef it up, tune it or just make it look better. And if you really drill them down you will see that most of the times they don’t really have a good answer to why they are putting so much time and effort into it. Just like their girlfriends won’t have a good answer to why get married.

The only real question we need to ask ourselves in case we don’t have a good answer to why get married is how important is it to those around us to get married and are they important enough for us to do something as irrational as that for them. Another good question or actually questions are if the people you are trying to make that sacrifice for are willing to return the favor, if they are capable to understand that you are willing to accept an irrational desire on their part and that they will accept the same from you. And the obvious second part of that question is if the answer is not and they are not even capable to understand you they valuable enough for you that you would accept them as they are. Because at the end of the day it doesn’t matter if you are married or not, if you have a good answer to the question of why get married or not but if you are truly happy with the choices you have made and with the place in your life you are at.