Why do people get married

Why do people get married? What are the reasons to get married? We can do an investigation and try to find the answer to that question but first, for argument’s sake, let’s get the petty stuff out of the way. Some people get married to get a visa, citizenship or, the most objectionable reasons of all, in the hopes that the spouse will die soon granting the survivor a quick pass to a life of luxury and wealth that they inherited. But these are just an insignificant statistical number of people and their reasons to get married should not even be taken in to account, so let’s take a closer look!

There are many reasons to get married; in fact there are as many reasons to get married as there are not to get married. So the actual question is if you do want to get married. If you do and it’s something that you’ve dreamt of since childhood then you already have all the reasons you need – fair warning though: just like any dream reality never rises up to it so keep that in mind on your wedding day and try to enjoy every moment of it and ignore anything that would distract you from your joy. However if you have never understood why people get married, you have found their reasons to get married weak and incomplete then stop your quest because there are no unequivocal reasons to get married.

That having been said you need to look around at those in your life and wonder if there aren’t some things that you like or dislike that they may not understand but they do respect them for your sake. Because, remember: if there really are no good reasons to get married then it logically follows that there are no good reasons not to get married. If you are scared and think to yourself that you might not want to be tied to a single person for the rest of your life then you have just accepted that marriage is a bonding agent. So the question becomes if you want to be tied to one person, that particular person that has made you start this philosophical debate in the first place, for the rest of your life. This is in itself a ridiculous fear because there is no official document, no religious ceremony that can truly bind two people together for the rest of their lives.

So what other reasons to get married could one have? There is the classical because I love him or her, which really has nothing to do with the institution of marriage because no formal construct can encompass or restrain the absolute. Another apparently rational reason would be to have a family or to have fulfill a social obligation, but then again there are many married people, with children who have never experimented the warmth of a home and there are many couples who form the type of family most of us can only dream of and who have never stepped in a church or in a mayor’s office to formalize their bond. And those couples also prove the second point, that we are the society and there are no obligations to be fulfilled except those that we impose on ourselves.

So there really aren’t any reasons to get married that would irrevocably establish the institution of marriage as an objective obligation. But then again there are no reasons disproving it completely. In fact if your chosen one would be completed, would feel happy by getting married although he or she cannot truly explain why remember there is no “why”. There is nothing to explain. You may want to make a point and be a rebel from the society but just like the yin and yang philosophy of the orient teaches us, even the rebel is fighting something and through his rebellion he is only strengthening the society. There will come a time when free couples will be the norm and the eccentrics, the rebels will get married and then the tide will turn again. If you truly want to escape the wheel simply stop trying to find the reasons to get married and find the ways through which you can truly enjoy your life.